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Does Getting Vocal During Sex = Better Orgasms?

There’s a few benefits that come with getting LOUD in the bedroom. Whether it’s partnered play or a solo sesh, channel your inner Hilary Duff and raise your voice – improving communication with your partner and letting yourself relax will help you reach your O even quicker.


Moaning is often an involuntary, pleasure-filled response– you shouldn’t think twice about it, really. For many, the sound of our own moans or your partners are a big turn on. There’s a lot of reasons not to kill the volume on your showing your sexual pleasure, so if you catch yourself trying to keep it down, we’ve got a couple reasons to convince you to practise your sopranos. 

Let’s get loud.

Before we break out the megaphone, big question–does letting your vocal inhibitions run wild in the bedroom truly equal better orgasms? Yes and no! Moaning for the sake of it (read: faking it) is probably going to have the opposite effect. Moans are positive reinforcement, so faking it will just give your partner the wrong idea that they’re getting you closer to your climax when really they aren’t. Boo! Mixed signals are not a fun time for anyone involved. (Seriously, stop faking your orgasms.)


In saying this, moaning raw and authentically is lowkey a power-up in the bedroom; it’s a nonverbal cue to your sexual partner that says ‘hey, I’m having a good time!’ When we let those genuine hot and heavy noises out, it indicates you’re in the moment, relaxed and enjoying yourself – all important for climbing that climax to your big O. Not to mention, when you’re totally free and unbothered in the bedroom, that’s typically a huge turn-on for your partner too.


HOT TIP: Get vocal in more ways than one. Communication is sexy. Yes, moaning is top-notch positive reinforcement but if your partner is doing something that’s killing your climax, a little dirty talk and guidance goes a long way.

Even for solo sessions?

Yep, getting loud can be beneficial even when you masturbate! Sex and relationship coach, Nicole Buratti, says “When a woman moans during sex, her throat opens, her breathing slows, and her pelvic floor muscles relax.” This helps lead you to your mind-blowing orgasms even quicker, even when you’re having solo spicy time! Plus, Laurie Mintz, sex expert and author of Becoming Cliterate, says “Your own sounds may serve to enhance your own arousal.” That sounds like about good enough of a reason to us to raise your voice and let your inhibitions go.

Don’t get too in your head.

If moaning doesn’t feel natural to you, don’t overthink it or force yourself to get loud. What works for some, doesn’t for everyone – and that’s okay! The secret to your big O is feeling relaxed, but you definitely won’t be feeling blissfully ready to climax if you’re too in your head about the sounds you’re making in bed.

Getting noisy can feel intimidating if you’re stuck in your head about how loud you are or the sounds you’re making, so like anything, we’d recommend getting comfortable trying it on your own first. Next time you’re spinning your solo DJ session, take deep belly breaths and let yourself moan. If it enhances the experience and turns you on, lean into that energy whether for your next solo serenade or partnered spicy time.


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