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Getting Started: Beginner’s Guide To Mind-Blowing Orgasms With A Vibrator

Using a vibrator opens up a world of pleasure, orgasms and getting to know your body you’ve never experienced. With a buzzy bestie, you can level up your masturbation moments and introduce toys into partnered play in the bedroom–the world is your pleasure-filled oyster. Plus, if you’ve never had an orgasm before or have trouble articulating what gets you off with a sexual partner, experimenting with a vibrator and finding what works for you can open up a whole new world of fun.

 

Never used a vibrator before and not sure where to start? Don’t sweat it, we’ve got you with our Beginner’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Orgasms With A Vibrator. It’s a great feeling knowing you’re about to change someone’s life for the better.

Choosing the right vibrator for you

The first step to achieving mind-blowing orgasms with a vibrator is choosing the right vibrator that works for you. Everyone has different preferences for what helps them reach their climax and there are different toys with their strengths to help you get there. All your vibrator cares about is getting you off, isn’t that so sweet?

 

A palm vibrator, like our Amelie, is tongue-shaped and great for external clitoral and vulva stimulation, while a thrusting rabbit vibrator, like Isabella, might be more your speed if you prefer a combination of penetration and clitoral stimulation. Or maybe the double-headed curves of a dual G-spot and clitoral stimulator vibrator is the right buzzy bestie to hit all your sweet spots. Wrapped in buttery soft silicone with a multitude of stimulating vibration settings, our range of 100% carbon neutral are a team ready to get you off in solo sex sessions and partnered play.

Foreplay is important

Yep, even for solo sex, foreplay is important. Treat yourself like you’re taking yourself on a date–wine and dine, baby. Set the mood and build up the anticipation before you even get your vibrator out. Some great ways to prepare yourself for maximum orgasmic pleasure and set the mood, include:

  • Taking a long, sensual bath (bonus if you slather yourself in your favourite body oil or butter afterwards)
  • Reading a smutty book or listening to audio erotica (Dipsea is a great app to start with)
  • Turn down the overhead lighting and light some candles or incense
  • Have a cheeky bev or glass of wine
  • Watch ethical, female-friendly porn
  • Listen to a sexy times playlist – we have a Solo Serenades playlist on Spotify curated just for your spicy solo DJ sessions

Once you’ve set the mood and you’re feeling hot and bothered, start with gentle teasing on your most sensitive erogenous areas. If you’ve never used a vibrator before, taking it slow and savouring learning what your body responds to can make the experience much less intimidating (and help you achieve intense orgasms!)

Some popular areas that people say they respond well to teasing from their vibrator include their breasts, inner thighs and nipples, as well as their neck, lips, stomach or inner elbows. Have a play around teasing different areas of your body and see what you like.

As you get more aroused, you might feel tempted to jump straight into using your vibrator on your vagina and vulva. The more you gently tease yourself with light contact, the more build up you can create for your big O.

Lube up, please!

Even with adequate foreplay, not everyone naturally lubricates like a slip and slide. Lube is your bestie for maximum pleasure, comfort and toe-curling orgasms. We love Sydney-based brand, Figr, and their ‘Fluid’ water-based lubricant. This baby mimics your natural lubrication and is safe for your silicone toys too. Plus, it’s made with native Australian extracts, strawberry lime and finger limes. Yay!

Clitoral stimulation

Once you’ve adequately teased yourself with a feather light touch, work your way into clitoral stimulation. Some people enjoy circling your clit slowly or rapidly, while some prefer feather-light stimulation. Experiment with different pressures, positions and the settings on your vibrator to find what feels good for you.

G-spot stimulation

Not as elusive as you may think, you can usually find your G-spot upward towards your belly button with a ‘come hither’ motion. G-spot vibrators, like our gal Veronica, have an ergonomic shape that’s perfect for stimulating your G-spot with the bonus of external stimulation for your clit too. With a partner, some of the best positions for stimulating your G-spot,and reaching your climax, are cowgirl or doggystyle. When masturbating with a vibrator, try getting on your knees and experiment with grinding motions using your vibrator to stimulate your G-spot internally, clit externally or both to reach a mind-boggling, toe-curling orgasm.

Location matters

Sure, maybe it’s easier to make yourself c*m when you’re relaxing on holiday abroad, but that’s not the location we’re talking about. The most typical place to have solo spicy time is likely in your bed (a great choice) but the fun part about waterproof vibrators is taking your buzzy bestie in the bath or shower with you. Double up on the steamy, sensual selfcare vibes and reach a toe-curling climax. Did we mention the bonus of an easy, peasy clean-up?

Partnered play

Vibrators aren’t just for achieving mind-blowing orgasms during your solo sexcapades. Introducing a buzzy bestie into your partnered playtime activities is a stellar way to connect with your partner, open the lines of communication on what gets you off, and turn up the volume on the intensity of your orgasms. If a couple’s vibrator that lets you release control is what you’re looking for, Dorothea, our remote control ideal for partnered play will be your go-to. Or perhaps you want to venture into the world of mutual masturbation and show your partner how you like to make yourself c*m with your toys? The opportunities for partnered pleasure with a vibrator are endless.

What are you waiting for? Get yourself a new buzzy bestie and enter a whole new world of self-pleasure.

 

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